Sometimes we go through experiences that overwhelm us. We feel alone and helpless, or need someone to share the little things that bring us joy. Other times we rush into judging others without knowing them or having any idea about the things they’ve been through.

I started Connections in a time when my life didn’t look to colorful or happy and it served as a self therapeutic exercise. Then more people got hooked into it and I decided to take it further.

This project is an exercise of introspection and sincerity, a way of traveling back in time to reflect on some of the moments and relationships that put a mark on our lives. Connections talks about all of us – the experiences that bring us joy or sadness, the little things we might take for granted, the people we meet.

It’s a project that continues to do me good and I hope you’ll get something good out of it as well.

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Did you use to invent stories when you were a little girl? What were they about?

I often thought i’ve seen things no one else would notice, moreover since they all took place when no one i knew was there to see them with me For example, my parents still remember how certain i was about the day i went to buy some bread and i saw Kevin Costner waiting in the queue.

What’s the most beautiful memory from your childhood?

There are so many! My parents and my sister were my childhood superheroes, so i must pick one  memory for each of them. I’ll have to mention then the walks my dad and my 8 year old self used to have in the dog park, the not so often but lovely moments when my sister, who was 5 years older than me, would cave in to my pleadings and play with me and my dolls, and the most delicious picnics my mother used to plan at the neighbourhood’s pool. And those are just a few.

Tell me about a person who changed or influenced your life

This will probably sound very “Sex and the City” like but i’ll have to mention my friends – the most beautiful, snappy in a smart way, independent and badass chicks i know. I’d be a smaller person, with fewer models and less happy memories if i wouldn’t have met them.

What did you learn from your past relationships?

As a highly sensitive and almost paranoid person, i developed some weird self defense mechanisms that made me look very ironic and cold to people who didn’t know me or who intimidated me. So i try to relearn that showing my vulnerability is actually an act of courage and it’s ok if my voice trembles or if i feel like crying. I’ve also learnt that smiling, getting excited and showing myself is good 🙂

Did a stranger do something nice for you?

It happened sometimes, yes. There were traffic controllers who didn’t give me a ticket when my head was too deep in the clouds and i  forgot to scan my ticket, random people who offered me flowers on the street and a lady in a bus who told me i was wearing a dress just as beautiful as she used to wear when she was younger :).

Did you do something nice for a stranger?

A couple of days ago i told a woman who was almost 70 years old that she was very beautiful and she had the gentlest eyes i’ve ever seen.

When in your life did you feel most alone?

This must be the classical moment when you feel close to the abyss. It sounds dramatic, but this was how i felt. Even more so when i was surrounded by people who encouraged me to talk and let everything out and i did talk about everything that happened to me. Nonetheless, that awful feeling stayed with me for a while.

Diana, 28 years old

*If you want to be part of this project send me your answers at ioanabirdu@gmail.com*

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